Tuesday, January 29, 2013


I spent Sunday visiting Jeremy at college.  
I had the pleasure of running errands with him and heading out for a bite to eat.  We had a really nice day together.
On my ride to and from school, about four hours round trip, I listened to Christopher’s iPod.  It ran the gamut of genres from soft rock to heavy metal to country.  Every time a song ended I was clueless what to expect.  He had eclectic taste in music.  I never really heard his playlists before because he had his ear buds in most of the time.  I really like Nickelback, Jesse  J.  and Three Doors Down but I’m not wild about Disturbed or Lil Wayne… (I actually texted Bailey to complain about the language in some of the songs – it’s horrible!)  I learned to fast forward quickly.  How can some of these singers get rich on such crap???  Tasteless garbage (ha hah!)
I brought my little dog Happy with me to college.  Our ride over and back was uneventful thankfully.  He snoozed in the back seat both ways.  That got me to thinking about Chris and our college visits last year.  Why was it he always got comfy with his pillow and headphones while I did the driving?  What’s up with that???  How was that decided and by whom?!!  I took Chris and his buddy Brian to several colleges and they had the best naps ever… They got to wake up upon arrival.  Hmmmm, spoiled kids! 
As I drove to see Jeremy I could feel Chris present in the front seat… I could almost see him reclined back a bit with his neck pillow wrapped around him and his iPod thumping in his ears. Just like those college trips.  I could hear him sigh comfortably and give me that little brat smile knowing full well I was gonna do all the driving while he relaxed.   It made me smile. 
I talked to him on and off the whole time.  I knew he was beside me.  I know he went out to eat with us and shop with Jeremy and me too.  Of course he came along; he loved restaurant dining and could spend my money at the stores easily and with gusto.  They both can and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Jeremy and I left Happy in his dorm room while we were out.  His neighbor Dan took on dog sitting duty keeping the little guy company.  Thanks Dan :-)  We were able to take our time without worry and had a leisurely brunch without rushing. Happy has a tendency to get into things and create messes like any two year old.  At one point he made a break for the door and took off down the hall escaping past Jeremy’s legs.  He’s a fast SOB.  We got him back – but not until he stormed the dorm hallway.  When you’re tiny and weigh ten pounds and come upon that long, open corridor it must spur on the desire to race… I’ll bring him back to exercise again.  Those long halls are perfect for winter running and so much warmer than spending time outside. 
When I got back to the house at dinnertime I headed right for Christopher’s room to say hello.  Why?  I have no idea… I felt he had been alongside me all day but for some reason I just breathe easier when I go to his space each time I get home.  I only need a minute to take a look around to be sure everything’s in its place.  There must be something psychological to it…some kind of closure or comfort factor?  It seems to work for me. 
So, I had a good weekend.  Spent some nice one on one time with Jeremy and was able to enjoy the weekend with very little down time.  I’m thankful for that – and thankful to Jeremy and Chris for giving me that peace.

Thank you for reading


  1. Regina,
    I am so happy that you were able to have such a wonderful weekend with your boys, including Happy! As I read todays blog, I could feel your happiness and relaxation. Again, I am so happy for you!

  2. This made me smile and breathe a little easier for you. I'm so glad that you are able to heal like you are. You're a remarkable person. I'm so glad that this hasn't stopped you and that you are able to carry on with complete faith that chris is beside you. I'm happy for you :)

  3. Best wishes for more peaceful days and more good weekends. God Bless.

  4. You sound like such a funn mom...Chris n Jeremy are very lucky to have you... I LOL when you said you were listening to DISTURBED N LIL WAYNE.... I'm sure DISTURBED was music that got Chris amped for FOOTBALL....AND LIL WAYNE (sigh) my daughter n son both listen to him and I must agree HORRIBLE LANGUAGE...but THEY ALL do, well most I'm sure... We bought my daughter a car for graduation last year then for her b'day we put a system in her car n every time I get in that damn car that music is on smh..... Glad you had a Great day with the boys n happy.... :0)

  5. Regina, I'm so glad you were able to spend time with Jeremy, with Chris by your side. I was wondering how Jeremy was doing back at school. I love that he let you take his picture. I feel that he's a very private person, so the picture was nice to see. Did he roll his eyes when Happy bounced into the dorm? I had images of Jeremy's friend babysitting the little fireball escapee! That's pretty funny. I'm glad you had a good weekend. "If you just keep moving forward, you'll amaze yourself". That was a "link" I saw on my newsfeed this morning that I posted to your wall. For me, it mirrors your last few sentences of the share today.

    You were brave to listen to the music on Chris' iPod! I know there is a lot of Dave Matthews band on my son's iPod, but not sure what else. I think I'll have to check into that for curiosity sake! Jeff and I do not share the same taste in music, this I know. For the long trips Ally and I take, she brings her iPod, but we don't listen to the random "stuff" on there. She put together the "MOM" playlist that is specifically for when we are in the car together. I thought that was pretty kind and considerate of her, especially that she knows me that well to do that... Melted my heart.

    She has a wide genre of music on her iPod spanning from from classical; bagpipes and even what I consider dreadful! Then there are the songs we agree are just perfect for singing in the car on those long car rides (hence the Mom playlist). We end the trip to our destination, most times blaring the bagpipe music to get her in competition mode. :)

    As you move through your days, may you have the comfort of your family and friends who are thinking about you and sending you strength, and may you always feel Chris there with you. Ending your trip with a visit to Chris' room makes so much sense. Like you said the "comfort factor"...

    Thank you for sharing your day with Jeremy with us. I know I was happy to hear you had a nice time with your boys.

    God bless...

  6. Super great post...feeling all warm and fuzzy over it!

    So glad you got to spend time with your boys this weekend...

    I can feel your peace and tranquility over your rewarding Sunday!!!

    Oh and Happy is just adorable!!!! Such a cutie!!

    God Bless, XO Smiling for you and your good day!

  7. Hi Regina! You made me smile. ❤❤❤

    Lots of Love. Lela

  8. I'm glad to hear you had a nice day out. It gives me comfort to hear you living your life as best as you can.