tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post4901030408019944943..comments2023-03-25T02:16:41.169-07:00Comments on "I BELIEVE THAT WE CAN WIN!": My DadAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07465340008524404065noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-57720036951438982682013-02-19T09:50:41.070-08:002013-02-19T09:50:41.070-08:00thoughts and prayers.
hugs and peace.
comfort an...thoughts and prayers.<br /><br />hugs and peace.<br /><br />comfort and strength.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12415757349375675707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-38108296627052142722013-02-10T13:45:28.089-08:002013-02-10T13:45:28.089-08:00Regina,
I can only imagine how sad and confusing ...Regina,<br /><br />I can only imagine how sad and confusing it must have been for a seven year old to lose their dad. I was twenty-four when my dad died of a heart attack, 16 days before my wedding. Talk about being angry and mad at your dad and God! How could they do this to me? I remember having a conversation with my dad while he was in the hospital recovering from his second heart attack in August a few weeks prior to his death. He said to me, not to worry nothing would keep him from being at my wedding. A few weeks later he suffered his fatal heart attack at home. As an adult it was difficult enough to come to terms with the loss of my father so I cannot even begin to comprehend how a child starts to heal from that loss. Or I wonder how did your mom handle such a loss with eleven kids to take care of! My mom had five kids who were grown at the time. I was the oldest at 24 and the youngest was 19. <br /><br />Thank you for sharing your story. I am sure your dad and Chris are enjoying getting to know one another.<br /><br />Hugs and peace.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08666560591613926190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-2411684370441378132013-02-09T18:33:48.096-08:002013-02-09T18:33:48.096-08:00Annie,
Thank you so much. God bless you as well as...Annie,<br />Thank you so much. God bless you as well as well as everybody who reads this blog. The jar idea is really fantastic. It is so helpful! I hope I see you at the pancake breakfast tomorrow. It will be great and I will be volunteering there! <br /><br />Let me know how the jar idea goes!<br /><br />XOHannah Cowleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05712628216734284016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-6164805630371404272013-02-09T03:35:53.294-08:002013-02-09T03:35:53.294-08:00Reading this entry made me think of a book I recen...Reading this entry made me think of a book I recently finished called The Light Between Oceans by ML Stedman. (If you like reading and are looking for a good book, I recommend this one) Its central themes dealt with love, loss, anger and forgiveness...all the things you spoke of in this blog. One of my favorite passages was one where the characters discussed resentment versus forgiveness. A man in the book who had suffered through tremendous ordeals said (I'm paraphrasing) that, although forgiveness isn't always easy, it's so much less exhausting than resentment - you only have to forgive once. To resent something or someone means that you have to remind yourself daily of the things that anger or bother you. <br />I think you should know that you're an amazing person.. I marvel at your strength and your positive attitude. Thank you for inspiring me everyday. Take care. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14254241800558080280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-47265468888723255982013-02-08T20:49:47.218-08:002013-02-08T20:49:47.218-08:00Regina - once again your honesty is refreshing. T...Regina - once again your honesty is refreshing. This is all so hard but your perspective is truly amazing and admirable. I hope you continue to find peace and comfort in your writing. We all miss Chris. Peace to you and your family.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09269656195447373200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-35301421617600840822013-02-08T19:29:13.966-08:002013-02-08T19:29:13.966-08:00Wow... speechless. Your honesty.... you humble me...Wow... speechless. Your honesty.... you humble me and make me a better person. Thank you Regina. This is raw and powerful ...and your blog has a spacial place in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-56576510358867414232013-02-08T19:24:21.436-08:002013-02-08T19:24:21.436-08:00Thank you for sharing this Regina. My dad is in th...Thank you for sharing this Regina. My dad is in the end stages of lung cancer. I have to fly out to CA next weekend to say good-bye. I am not ready for this. He is only 61. He was so full of life. I know it must be difficult for you to share every day, but I sure do appreciate it. You have been such a blessing and inspiration to me. This particular post made me focus on what I need to do next weekend when I see him.<br />Thank you,<br />RachaelRachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16815221503886016746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-74767268501557831372013-02-08T16:59:55.633-08:002013-02-08T16:59:55.633-08:00Regina-
You amaze me. Such a strong, beautiful ...Regina-<br /> You amaze me. Such a strong, beautiful woman. Thoughts are always with you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00024291955529414709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-74847345192416931322013-02-08T13:25:16.649-08:002013-02-08T13:25:16.649-08:00Hannah,
I sense you are a young girl who is wise ...Hannah,<br /><br />I sense you are a young girl who is wise beyond your years...God Bless you! I enjoy reading your responses and I love the little jar idea!!! It work so well for me, because I often refer to when I am in a quandary and I am feeling down or suffering I refer my feelings to being in a glass jar and I can't find a grip to get out, because the walls of a jar offer no way out...The thought of putting these little notes of good in my jar could give me the stepping stones that can help me get out of this otherwise slick jar. <br /><br />Thank you... :) XOAnnie143https://www.blogger.com/profile/16933909088655802448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-79160037331915532172013-02-08T07:06:09.089-08:002013-02-08T07:06:09.089-08:00I connect so so strongly with your feelings of ang...I connect so so strongly with your feelings of anger. I still have my moments when I'm angry at God for my mother's cancer, angry at my friend for "choosing" to give up her fight, and angry at doctors for not doing more to help my sweet, beloved Nana. I know what you mean, wanting to run outside screaming, but also being paralyzed with anger, and sometimes being somewhere in between. <br />You mentioned that you're trying to find some good in each day, and I think I have something that can help. After seeing this on the blogging website Tumblr (maybe you know it, maybe you don't...) I decided it could be helpful. You find a mason jar and decorate it with the year (so 2013) and each day, put a little slip of paper in the jar with something good that happened. Some days, I'll admit, it's ridiculously hard to find something to write on that little slip, but I haven't missed a day yet. Then, on New Year's Eve of next year, you open up the jar and read all the good little things that happened. You could even choose to open it up on the anniversary of the accident next year... Just whenever you need a little reminder that good things are still happening. <br />I've found it helps me to avoid becoming so lost in anger and grief that I can't find my toes anymore. <br /><br />Try it. <br /><br />Love,<br />HannahHannah Cowleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05712628216734284016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-73091079863905593122013-02-08T06:38:18.861-08:002013-02-08T06:38:18.861-08:00Beautiful and to the point! :)Beautiful and to the point! :)Annie143https://www.blogger.com/profile/16933909088655802448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-1316672161851093632013-02-08T05:28:38.108-08:002013-02-08T05:28:38.108-08:00Hi Regina.
Thank you again for sharing and barin...Hi Regina. <br /><br />Thank you again for sharing and baring your soul to the world. I wrote these two posts regarding forgiveness on my book's Facebook fan page a while ago and your post reminded me of them. I hope they give you and others some comfort.<br /><br />"Forgiveness doesn’t eliminate a hurtful past. It creates a hope-filled future."<br /><br />"As people we all are prone to make regrettable mistakes, but we also possess the incredible power attain forgiveness through love."<br /><br />Keep love in your heart & be at peace,<br />Robert<br /><br /><a href="http://www.facebook.com/GuideToTheSoul/" rel="nofollow">Guide to the Soul</a>Robert Clancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13318386498402574404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-34442735399226220672013-02-08T04:39:22.371-08:002013-02-08T04:39:22.371-08:00You did then what you knew how to do and when you ...You did then what you knew how to do and when you knew better... you did better! (Maya Angelou) <br /><br />Thank you for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12295891860217243836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-79051849309434854352013-02-08T04:04:26.358-08:002013-02-08T04:04:26.358-08:00I enjoyed your interview with Benita and Gina last...I enjoyed your interview with Benita and Gina last night. I marvel at your strength, pragmatism and wisdom. While I can only know snippets of what it's like to lose a parent as a youngster (I still vividly recall attending the funerals of my four Catholic grammar school classmates whose fathers died in the late 1960s and early 1970s) An only child, both of my parents died within six months of one another -- nearly 27 years ago (my mother died on Valentine's Day) when I was 26. Anger was never really the dominant emotion -- I guess because I always felt that there was nothing I could do to change God's plan. Seeing sort out your feelings about your father's death -- now coupled with the unspeakable tragedy of losing a child -- I can honestly say that grief is a lifelong process. I know it has been for me. While it is not something I would have wished for, my loss helped spark so much good in my life, through charitable and volunteer work and a perspective that has deepened with time. I wish the same for you -- I know you are well on your way there. Maryann Riviello Brennanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02177666981550866239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-79942721785861384572013-02-08T03:56:06.536-08:002013-02-08T03:56:06.536-08:00Good Morning Regina ~ :
It's striking how much...Good Morning Regina ~ :<br />It's striking how much Jeremy looks like your Dad! Love the picture of Chris and just his little eye showing. I reply to you every day after each blog and then .... delete. What can I say that everyone before me hasn't said and much more eloquently? BUT I do want to tell you that what I personally gain from your blogs as you asked yesterday is a connection. You're right in saying that Chris is everyone's son or brother and I think that's it. If you really open yourself up to that thought as a Mom & Sister you get it and want to reach out to let you know that someone, somewhere is thinking of you and praying for you and smiling at all of your stories and pictures of Chris and his friends and family. And most importantly, that Chris will not be forgotten.... even by people who have just met him! Shen is now on my radar ~ the hockey team, the basketball team, the school & kids and every time I read a story or see a news clip I think of you and of course send up a smile to Chris and maybe that's what it's all about. Staci in Saratoga Springshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00175037769071530945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3395367767199820941.post-19827455521216300802013-02-08T03:40:54.583-08:002013-02-08T03:40:54.583-08:00Regina,
Forgive yourself too about being angry at...Regina,<br /><br />Forgive yourself too about being angry at your dad, don't just forgive him. It is ok to get angry at our loved ones when they die. It is ok to get angry with God too.(many a famous men were angry with God in the bible, He understands that we don't understand)<br /><br />Eventually this anger will pass too and it will become less...but for now, don't beat yourself up about being angry...who could blame you...and don't worry about the guilt of pass anger, Pull those that love you close, and lean on them,just remember that you are not alone, you have your family and friends who love you and understand and want nothing more than the hurt and pain of this whole nightmare to go away. You have us too your blogreaders praying for you too we have become a different family to you, supporting you and behind you 100%. We are here for you in a different capacity...we too want to see you burden lightened.<br /><br />you are in my thoughts and prayers more than ever today!<br /><br />God Bless, XO<br /><br />Annie143https://www.blogger.com/profile/16933909088655802448noreply@blogger.com